NAKED and No Longer Ashamed with Candi Rose

Are you holding onto shame from your past, feeling like your story is something to hide instead of something to own? Today’s guest, Candi Rose, has been there—and she’s here to show you the way forward.

In this powerful episode, Candi shares her raw and inspiring journey from rock bottom to success, overcoming abuse, addiction, and shame to build a thriving career and an empowered life. She reveals:

✅ How to break the cycle of shame and reclaim your voice

✅ The baby steps that lead to BIG transformations

✅ How she found the courage to rewrite her story—again and again

✅ The role faith, community, and mindset play in healing and growth

If you’ve ever felt lost, stuck, or like your past is holding you back, this episode is for you. Get ready for a conversation that will inspire you to step into your power and own your story like never before.

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Transcript

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 0:00

Some stories aren't just meant to be told. They are meant to set people free. And today's guest, Candy Rose, has built her career doing just that. But here's what she knows to be true. When people hear their truth reflected in someone else's story. They finally feel the permission to break their silence and step into their power. And dang, y'all, do I know that to be true. But Candy helps people confront what they've been running from, reclaim their voice, and take real tangible steps forward. If you ever felt like nobody understands you, which, hello, me, this episode is for you.

0:40

Well, welcome to the glass ceiling and sticky floor podcast. The show that's here to empower you to break free from limiting beliefs, ditch toxic behaviors, and unlock the infinite possibilities waiting for you. This is your time to live your best life unapologetically I'm Erica Rooney, your host and biggest cheerleader on a mission to get more women into positions of power and keep them there. Where they belong. If you're ready to shatter ceilings, crush self-doubt and build a career in life overflowing with growth and abundance. You're in the right place. Here's the deal. We talk about the hard stuff here. Imposter syndrome, perfectionism, fear, burnout, you name it. It's raw. It's honest. And it's exactly what you need to level up. So grab a seat, pop it in here, bud. And let's dive in.

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 1:31

So let's get into it. Without any further ado, Candy Rose, welcome to the show. How are you?

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 1:37

Thank you. I am doing great. So excited we finally got this going.

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 1:41

I know, it's gonna be so good, but I, from the moment I saw your book, which, spoiler alert everybody, she is an author, she's got this amazing book called Naked, which, don't worry, she got her clothes on, but we are going to talk about it, and I knew I had to have you on this show because I want to call you like this shame expert, right, like you know your stuff, but before I give away too much. Tell me all about who is Kandi Rose and what got us to this point.

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 2:11

Oh my gosh, that's such a long story. I had a good childhood growing up. Everything was great. You know, when I was in high school, that's when things started taking a turn for me. I was bullied for two years. And, um, after that, you know, I was just this hurting teen. I was running away from family, God. sports friends. And I ended up, you know, going to another school. I started skipping school. I started drinking drugs, all the stuff. By the time I'm 19, I'm arrested by the D. A. You know, I ended up dating drug dealers. I mean, I was just going down a very, very fast spiral clusterfuck out of control, right? I'm just this hurting teen running away. And now I'm just getting in so much trouble. I don't know how to fix it. And I'm, I'm just spiraling and I'm drinking more and I'm doing more drugs and I'm living the lifestyle of, you know, the raves and the all night clubs and I'm dating guys. I shouldn't be dating. And then I start stripping because I think, Hey, I'm dating drug dealers. We're doing drugs. These strippers are making a lot of money. My life isn't looking very good right now. Anyways, I mean, I was just arrested by the feds. I now dropped out of college. I really didn't see any hope for my life. And so that's kind of the beginning of how it happened for me. After that, you know, it just continued to spiral and to, you know, I got into an abusive relationship with a man that I loved with all of my heart. And Anybody that's been in an abusive relationship knows that's just when you don't know, you don't know the first time you're in one, you know, you just think they're having a bad day, you know, this is going to get better. And you, you know, pray for them to get better. But at this time, um, everything was just kind of out of control. And I ended up. You know, staying with him for about four years, um, and, and things just kind of continued to spiral, right? When I finally got the courage to leave him, my home was in pre foreclosure, I'm now like, what am I going to do with my life? And I'm thinking, you know, all the words. That he had ever called me, you know, that telling me that I was just a dumb bitch and a dirty used up stripper. Nobody's ever going to want a girl like me. I was like, you know, maybe he's right, you know, I don't have anything to show for myself. Here I am, my home's in pre foreclosure, I'm a college dropout, you know, with a criminal background, who had been a stripper. I'm not very educated, I've got nothing, I've got no money, you know, I, I, I, I, I'm obviously dating people that I deserve to be dating. Cause this is. How I was thinking. I don't deserve anybody better than this, right? And that was at my lowest point where I contemplated suicide. And I thought, you know, there is this hole that I have dug so deep. And I didn't see any way out. And I was so ashamed of the person that I had become. I had let myself down. I let my family down. I let God down. And I thought, you know, it might just be easier because of the pain I was feeling if I could just check out. Luckily that didn't happen, and I'm still here. And that was the beginning of me rebuilding my life. Rebuilding it from basically nothing to everything that I have now. So that's sort of the beginning of my life.

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 5:43

That is, but like, tell me like where you are now. What are you doing now? Because you've got a 14 year old daughter, right? A thriving career. So we already know because you're here, you're on the other side of it. Where are we now?

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 5:55

Okay. So, um, basically after that, I ended up getting my real estate investing career started. Um, this was super huge for me because I didn't want to go back to the club. Um, and I got that career started within 45 days. I had put a house on a contract. I flipped it. I had made a whole selfie of 7, 000. I saved my home from foreclosure and I never went back to the club. And this was the beginning. Yes, of rebuilding my self worth. I knew at the time that I had to find a career. Where I could do without a college degree. And so I went to work trying to figure out what I could do entrepreneurial wise. Um, and then throughout all of that, this is the way I see it. It's kind of a difficult story. I, um, ended up meeting another guy and, um, I ended up kind of rebounding cause I wasn't over my ex. I got pregnant and when she was one, I called the wedding off. Now, during this time of being, becoming a successful real estate investor, because at the time I was flipping houses for about a year and a half. And then I met this guy and then I rebounded with him. He had a lot of money. So I kind of quit working and he was like, let me take care of you. And yada, yada, yada, got pregnant when she was one and a half, I called the wedding off. And then we found ourself. He had kicked us out, taken our only car, and even though he had three, kept all my clothes. And then my parents took us in, um, we would have been homeless if it weren't for them taking us in. And so then again, it was like, my, my life just hit, hits rock bottoms. A lot of times that's why I have to go through it so you can kind of see where I'm at. But I was home and I was like, why God, why me again? And then I got up, decided, Hey, I'm going to start rebuilding my life again. I rebuilt my business for a second time and from the outside looking in for about nine months, which nothing was happening from the outside looking in, everybody was looking at me like, what are you doing with your life? Like you need to get up, you need to get a job. And I'm like, I I'm trying to get my business going, you know? And within nine months, I put this other house under contract. I flipped it. I had made so much money. That now I was able to go out and start my career all over again. Um, I ended up being able to buy us a car. Uh, we didn't have a car for like a year. So that was a whole nother, you know, getting up and starting over. And that was really exciting. And within a year, it had gotten us a house, a car, got my business started again. And things were looking up. So, fast forward a few years later, I am, I have now flipped hundreds of homes. And now I was building multi million dollar homes. Again, I am nobody special. You know, I'm just somebody that saw a challenge, wanted to try it. I learned a trade. I learned how to do things. And then I did it even though it was really, really scary to get involved in it. And then I became good at it, right? And so I had just sold the biggest project in my career. It was this 10, 000 square foot home that I had built in this really nice neighborhood. Um, it was 2. 6 million. Now at the time, this is before this crazy.

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 9:22

Right, in today's money, that's like a 10. 6 million dollar home.

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 9:27

Exactly. So at the time, I mean, it was gorgeous and I had just sold it and I need so much money and I'm miserable and I'm like, what is going on? I had also built my daughter and I a brand new home during this time. I mean, I am a female dominating a male dominated industry and I'm like, what, why am I so unhappy? Why am I not like, and I felt guilty. I felt like I should be appreciative and I was. I was very appreciative and I, um, had to take a step back and I realized. I'm burnt out. I, I'm, I've worked so much. I've become this perfectionist and this workaholic because I'm throwing myself into my work because I'm trying to get over all of the pain from my, you know, my exes from the abuse. from, you know, running from, you know, being abandoned to raise a child on my own. I'm trying to prove something to people. I'm trying to prove to my parents. I'm not a total fuck up. I'm trying to prove to myself I could take care of my kid without any help from the father. You know, it was just so much stress. And I had gotten to this place and I was just like, What's wrong with me? And I realized that I was just tired of running and I didn't want to run anymore. And I was like, I have to go. And as whatever this sounds like, I felt like, you know, I just needed to run away and find myself and heal. And so I did, I ended up, um, moving my daughter and I to Spain in the middle of it all. I just said. I'm not doing this anymore. I'm not working a hundred hour weeks or 80 hour weeks or whatever. I was working and raising a child on my own. I was like, I want to, you know, be part of my child's life. I mean, she's nine at this time and I want to be happy and the money that I was making, you know, I made a lot of money in the strip club and I made a lot of money flipping houses, but like both of them, I ran away from those careers because I wasn't happy. With the money, like, and I ran away from my ex who was a multimillionaire because I wasn't happy in that relationship. And like, I was just searching for my happiness and I found it. I found it completely broke and broken with my child and starting my life all over again. Like, you know what I mean? That was the beginning was when I left him, I, I started to rebuild my happiness. And as I'm kind of going back, but as I'm building my child and I's, future, I loved being a real estate investor, but then it got to the point where it was just all about work, more hours, more work, more hours, more work. And I had done it. I had already proven to myself that I could be successful here, but then it got to the point where it was like. This isn't my passion anymore. This isn't my calling anymore. This was my vehicle to get out of rock bottom and to be able to take care of my kid. And I, I, I feel blessed. And I said, thank you to God so much. But I was like, now I feel like I'm being called to do something else and it was scary because it was like, walk away from this career where I'm making so much money and just go find yourself. heal and write this book and take care of your child. And I didn't know at the time, I just knew I just needed to get it out. And so I started to write and I mean, this. process was so therapeutic. I, I can't tell you how many times I cried writing this book and it was just like, it was a way to just release everything inside of me that I had kept hidden from everybody. Like that I just have kept. Hidden from society and from from my parents and from my friends. I mean, no, nobody really knew about what was going on in my life, you know, and I started to write. And it, it freed me. And that was kind of the beginning of my speaking career. It, it helped me to get my thoughts in order, you know, and it helped me to understand my story even more. And it, it, it was very therapeutic in the fact that it brought up a lot of repressed Memories. And that's why I was crying so much because I had forgotten about the pain of being bullied. Oh my gosh, when I started talking about that, I would just like cry like I was still in high school, like because of the pain, right? And when I'm writing about the abuse, I'm, I'm bawling. And I'm, when I'm writing about, you know, my, my, my substance abuse problem, I'm I'm like crying because I remember, you know, being on the bathroom floor, like throwing up, like profusely thinking I'm going to OD, am I going to ever wake up and just crying out to God, God help me, God help me, why can't I stop this, why can't I remember, I hate this feeling, like what's wrong with me, you know, you're sitting there like I'm never going to, Get over this. And then you start, it comes back when you start writing it. And so it just was, it was just an amazing experience. I'm, to walk away from everything, to follow a calling, to follow something in my heart. Cause I felt like God was going to use. me somehow to go out there and show people that it's not over. It's not over. It's never over. so that was kind of the thing that led me into my speaking career. I, um, I wrote the book. People started asking me to come speak on stages, and I was trying to sell at the point at that time, real estate investing courses. And I would have all these people lined up, and they didn't want to buy real estate investing courses they wanted to buy. They wanted to No. How did I overcome, you know, all the things in my past and, and that was a big, um, aha moment was like, okay, I'm going to change direction here. I'm going to, instead of going and sharing my story, which I do in real estate investing is always a big vehicle. I'm going to now start to target it towards people so that I could show them how to step out of their shame and their pain from their past. and show them that they're not alone and that there's always hope and that there's You know, it does not matter where you come from. It doesn't matter if you have money, what color you are, what sex you are, what, if you have any education, there is always a way to make it work if you really want to make it work. Because there's so many resources now.

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 16:35

Well, there's so much stuff and I mean I talk a lot about infinite possibilities and I think people Shut that down sometimes and they tune it out because they think, no, that could not be for me, right? Like, I could never do that. For example, I'm sure there's a ton of people who are listening right now that are like, I couldn't just pick up and move to Spain. That must be nice. And it's like, no, no, no. That's not what we're talking about here, right? Because let's, let's just listen back to her whole story and tell me again that that must be nice, right?

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 17:03

Yeah.

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 17:04

But what I'm really interested in, what I'm so intrigued on, is the shame piece. Because damn, what a big ugly ass emotion, right? What an ugly feeling. Nobody likes the feeling of shame. Nobody wants to talk about shame. Because it sucks. And I think you automatically assume, and you've said this a couple times, like, what's wrong with me? And I know, for me, my zone of discomfort is asking for help. So when you couple that zone of discomfort with All of the shame that I felt from not being a good enough executive, not being a good enough mom or wife or whatever. And it's like, well good, I can just numb those feelings up real quick. I know how to do that real quick and then I'll just go about my day, right? And nobody ever knew and I never told anybody because, again, the shame. So how do you, or how did you, start to reconcile the shame and process it and move forward with it?

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 18:02

Yeah. The shame is, is something that I didn't know how to break for a really long time. And that's because, you know, when we suffer with shame, we don't know who is safe. And I always tell people that in order to heal from shame, you have to do, you have to do a few things, right? My number one, you know, thing that I teach people is seek God, lean hard into your faith, because that was my, my path. and so I just share with people what I did, right? Number two, though, is to always find it. somebody, a trusted confidant or coach or somebody that you can talk to. And this doesn't mean to go running and talk to all your friends and family because I have done that. And when you receive remarks or comments back that you didn't think you were going to receive, it can really make you go back inside and come completely close up again. I remember telling, talking to my own dad and he was like, I mean, you weren't really in an abused relationship, were you? Like, it wasn't really that bad, was it? I was like, oh, wow. If you talk to the wrong people. Yeah. Then it's, and, and then, you know, you tell people I have, a drinking problem, or I have a drug problem, or I have a sex problem. You know, I had a really big problem with promiscuity. And I just started talking about that recently because that was really hard for me to open up about. Why? Because what if somebody else hears me talking about it, maybe a guy that I like, like, is this gonna affect me in some way? And you know what? It might. But when I tell people, it's like, you have to talk about it, okay? You seek a confidant or a coach, you do the work. That you have to do, which is really uncomfortable, but you have to do it. And I'm just talking about taking baby steps, like little baby steps every day. I remember when I was leaving my abuser and I just felt like, you know, I was going to take my life. I just remember re just it was like hard to walk. Like I felt like it was like physical therapy, but it was mental. And I just remember just going outside and just walking a little bit. Just every day. But doing the work is it's mental and it's physical. You got to take care of your body, you know but then the next step is making sure that you have a place to share in a seat in a safe community that is non judgmental and this is where the majority of your healing is gonna happen and this is what I do with my community because when you're able to share And this, you could share many different ways. Okay. There is speaking, but I didn't start off as a speaker. I promise you like that. I did not. Okay. I

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 20:44

We don't go from rock bottom to stages in front of 10, 000 people, y'all. That's not how it works.

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 20:51

You start off little by little baby steps. You do the work you share. And then you're going to go back. I call it the shame dance. You're going to share it. You're going to be like, Oh, you're going to delete it. And then you're like, I'm not, I don't want to say that anymore. I don't want people to know. Right. You like kind of go back and forth with getting comfortable with it, but where you learn to heal from the shame is that you bring it into the light because when you bring your shame into the light. It loses its power over you because shame holds its power in the darkness, and in your isolation, and in your silence. So, and then after that, you start creating your own community to continue your healing and your sharing and stuff. it's a, it's a process. It's just you have to address it. You have to feel it to heal it. You have to stop running. You have to stop running from it. And that was the main thing for me. I wanted to stop flipping houses and building houses. Because I wanted to be present in what was going on. And I'm not saying go and quit your job or anything like that right away. But I knew that if I stayed in my career, I wouldn't have any time because I was working so many hours and I am a full time single mom. And as long as we can just keep making that money and keep running, maybe it won't catch up to us, but one day it catches up and then you have a meltdown. And then,

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 22:11

A little men tee bee, as some of my friends like to call it.

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 22:16

yeah, so,

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 22:18

Oh my gosh, all of it resonates with me so much because it's very similar to my story. Also totally different. You know, it's one of those things, it's like, it's, it's the, the feelings of the shame and the emotion and, and starting over and, and having to bring all of those things that you believe are, are gross and bad about you into the light and start talking about them, and I will absolutely tell you that Community with other people like me is absolutely what helped me in the beginning. It is absolutely, I remember I had a pen pal y'all, like an email pen pal. I can't remember how we got connected, but we would check in with each other. I've never even seen this person in real life. We would check in with each other every week to see how we were doing. Right. And it was like, it was through, um, a sober community, you know, but every week me and this woman would just communicate by email. And she was the only person at that time that I felt like I could actually open up and talk to about what I was struggling with. And it was because she was doing the same thing, you know? And so when you can

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 23:22

Yeah. Yeah.

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 23:24

about these things, like, and that's why I love to talk about them on the podcast, because if I had had this type of conversation. Way back then, like, how would it have been different? I don't know, you know? And it's not just to be about sobriety or any of those things. I mean, imposter syndrome, women don't talk about that. Women don't step up to the plate and say, yeah, my confidence is shit and that's why I didn't ask for a raise. All of these things that we are scared to speak into existence.

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 23:55

Mm hmm.

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 23:56

We have to because then we find the community, we learn we're not alone, and then you can start to put the pieces together. But I have another question for you, but one thing I really wanted to highlight is like, you've had a couple big roller coaster up and down moments.

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 24:11

I've had a

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 24:11

And I, I love this because I, I feel like we have so many people that they think it's like, oh, well, you hit rock bottom and then it's all up and up and up and up from here.

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 24:22

Um,

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 24:26

on the rollercoaster ride. We are going up, we are going down, sideways, and loop de loop. And so, I love that that's highlighted, but one thing I want to ask you, and, and this kind of brings it, like, into motherhood and all of that, but, Where did you find the courage, because these are big, courageous steps you took. Like, I know you talk about baby steps, but like, some of these are some big, courageous steps. How did you take these big, courageous steps, navigate healing, while also being the mom you want to be?

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 25:00

okay. So yes, they do seem like big, huge steps and they are, but they were, but I was always taking my baby steps. And I always talk about, focus on your F priorities. Uh, F words are the best words is what I always say. And as a single woman, single mom, I say focus on, and what I always focused on every single time I hit rock bottom was my faith first. Family second, uh, friends, meaning I got rid of a lot of friends that were bringing me down. And I, and I kept the friends that wanted the best for me, but in my life, I didn't have a lot of those because I was clearly going in and out of some pretty bad groups and doing some things, you know, um, and then my fitness, which is physical fitness and mental health, and then my, um, finances. So I was always focusing on these. Um, And what I tell the ladies is don't focus on that other F word. What's it called? It's called, um, fornicating. That's right. I used to say the other one.

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 26:04

I mean, that's where my head went, but okay. We're gonna keep it clean on this podcast today.

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 26:09

try, I try to like, you know, yes, I do say the bad words every now and then. I say them a lot when I'm not actually like, when I'm just with my friends. But

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 26:16

Yep, yep.

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 26:18

I'm trying, I'm trying. But yeah, when you are focusing on the things that you need to focus on. Your life, and especially when you put your faith first and you focus on God first. And then you're focusing on your family, which for me was my daughter. And then you're focusing on your fitness because you're, you're strengthening yourself and your mental health. You're reading positive self help books. You're reading Bible. You're reading whatever, you know, listening to things now. To what you were saying earlier, when I was going through a lot of my stuff, I didn't have social media when I was going through the, the, the abuse stuff and all that. But that's what I was focusing on was those, those F priorities. And so that's how I was able to go out and literally pick up the pieces of my life within nine months. To buy my, buy a house for my daughter, a car for myself and my daughter, get my business going again. And the faith part was really, really important because nothing was happening for nine months. Things were happening, but you couldn't see it happening. And I had two fathers. My stepfather and my father both telling me, go get a real job with benefits. You need to take care of your kid. Da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da. And I was like, no, I don't want to go work for somebody else. I want to rebuild my business. Like, I know I can do this. I know I can do this. And it was just taking so long again. I could have quit. I could have quit. But like, I didn't want to quit. And I had to believe that my faith was going to help me achieve the things that I wanted to do in my life as long as I didn't quit. And so that's always been my motto. Never quit. Never give up, no matter how hard it gets. Because if you quit, that means you're going to live in your settled Life you're gonna live in misery. You're gonna live with what society says you should have But if you rely on your faith and you just keep going you get smacked in the face So many times you get knocked down. I mean my life is just continually just knockdowns, right? And I just kept getting back up And I was like, I'm not, I, what else am I going to do? I had a choice. Am I going to go back to the strip club? I don't want to go back to the strip club right now. Like I'm getting this business going and it's so hard. And I'm like, you know, the whole, the speaking, the books, the marketing, the building, everything. And I'm like, do I go back to flipping houses? I mean, I could, but I don't want to go back to flipping houses. Like this is. my new passion and I'm gonna do whatever I gotta do to make it work because I believe and God says because of your faith it will happen and so that's the way I live my life. So when you say focus on your priorities,

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 29:13

it makes me think about that quote where it's like, choose your hard, you know, like working out every day is hard, but it's also really hard to be unhappy with how you look not confident in your bathing suit with the pool with your kids and feel like shit. So choose your hard, right? Like, It's hard to go back to the strip club and live that life. It's hard to start a real estate business. It's hard to be a single mom. Like all of these things are hard, you know, but it's pick your heart and it's aligning with your happiness and what, what fills your cup and all of those things. So Candy, for anyone who is listening that maybe feels Lost, feels broken, feels shame, right? Maybe they feel like they'll never escape their past. What's one message that you want them to take away from your story?

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 30:00

I just hope that they can see that your story is never done. It's never done until you say it's done and it might look like you don't have any hope and it might look like you have dug a hole so deep that you're never going to find your way out and it might look like you don't have any possible way. To change your life around what you do you always have and you can always change your life but you're gonna have to work for it and yes, I say you have to lean hard into your faith because Here's the thing, especially if you're suffering with shame and more specifically, toxic shame. Toxic shame puts you in a place that you're so isolated and lonely and you're silenced. And I know that you've tried. Everything you can to change it. And so did I, and I was at that breaking point of considering taking my life. I had to reach out to a higher power because I had tried to do it on my own. And I couldn't do it on my own. And so I needed a higher power. And so I said, okay, God, help me, just help me. If you're out there, help me. I mean, that's all I, I used to pray that all the time, help me. And so that's. That's the one thing I would say is that just don't give up. Like, don't ever give up. Don't ever give up.

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 31:24

And then my last favorite question, I always say this is last question, best question, but if you could go back in time, you know, to the Candy Rose who is being bullied and starting down, you know, the path that I think everybody always wishes they had never stepped down. But if we hadn't done that, we wouldn't be here today.

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 31:44

I know.

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 31:45

But what piece of advice would you give her today?

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 31:48

Hmm.

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 31:50

And this, I mean, think about it, like, this is almost around your daughter's age, right? So, like,

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 31:54

she's

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 31:55

Ha! Of what?

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 31:56

she's 14. I was, I was bullied the first year, first and second year in high school. And what I've told her for a very long time is that bullies bully you because they have low self esteem. I didn't know that. I didn't know abusers abuse you because they have low self esteem. And also because There's something going on at home that you don't know about. Now I'm not condoning that they're hurting you because they're hurting, but hurting people hurt people and people who want something that you have. Or are jealous of you are going to be mean to you and I didn't understand this I was innocent. I was this innocent little girl. I had not had sex. I wasn't really interested in boys yet. I was a late bloomer. Yeah. And so I always talk to her about that and I'm like, and if they're, if they're mean to you, you have to stand up for yourself. Okay? You have to stand up for yourself. That, you know, if you're going to stand up for yourself and stand up for yourself, but if not just walk away like that's probably the best thing to do and don't show any emotions, you know, walk away, don't show any emotions. Right? And so you just have to understand that, you know, people are either hating or bullying or abusing because There's something that happened in their past, but also because they're insecure.

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 33:17

And then it has nothing to do with you.

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 33:18

Yeah.

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 33:19

At that age, it's very hard. Even at this age, at my age, you know, I'm turning 40 next month. It's like very hard to sometimes wrap my brain around. Well, your book, it's on Amazon, it's wherever books are sold. Where can people get in touch with you if they want to connect or learn more about you?

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 33:36

Yeah, so they can go to candyrose. com. It's C A N D I. Uh, roseliketheflower. com. And they can find out all of the information of my communities, if they want to join those communities. I do also have like a free masterclass and I'm usually doing a training. I'm always trying to give something of value to my community to help them to kind of just to get to know me more. So just go to the website candy with an I rose. com and you can see everything that's going on there and get in touch with me and social media and stuff too.

erica_1_01-23-2025_131213: 34:10

Amazing. I'm going to link everything in the show notes, y'all. It is a must read. So grab it today. Candy, thank you so much.

squadcaster-9b1b_1_01-23-2025_131213: 34:18

Thank you